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Type Four: The Romantic
 

Basic Proposition: Others enjoy the happiness that I have been denied.

Habitual Focus of Attention: "Best" is what's absent.

What "Romantics" observe about themselves:

  • There is a constant longing for the missing ingredient for personal happiness;
       
  • Their focus is on the best of what's missing, what’s distant, and what's hard to get;
 
  • The "ordinary" pales by comparison;
 
  • There is a deeply felt abandonment that translates into a belief that "I am un- loveable”: and,
 
  • "Romanitics" feel special and elite. Their suffering sets them apart from others.

"I cannot imagine anyone envying me.  By comparison, if I had what others had, then I would be more fulfilled and happy."
 
     

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