Basic Proposition:  Love and survival depend on "giving to get".

Habitual Focus of Attention: Other people's  needs

What "Givers" observe about themselves:

• A preoccupation with the needs of others;

• Pride in giving and helping;

• Sometimes feel taken advantage of;

• Have a hard time expressing their own needs;

• Are manipulative; and

• Alter their self-presentation to meet the needs of important others.

"I know lots of people who couldn't get along without me. Where's the pride in that?"